Things You Should Never Do When You First Start Dating

The genesis stage of your courtship, relationship or whatever you call it when you first start dating is quint essentially the most important time. While you’re excited to have met someone new or actually moving on to a new part of your life, it’s a time where you have to make sure you don’t ruin things by getting too far ahead of yourself. There’s nothing that anyone can do about what goes on in your head about your new dating adventure, but the goal is to keep those things from coming out. Once those thoughts turn into actions, things can go awry or probably put an untimely end to your fantasies. To avoid this take it slowly and one step at a time. To help you get going with your new relationship, here are the Four Things You Should Never Do When You First Start Dating: 1. Facebook friend him/her: Going on to immediately to add your new partner can feel like stalking because it seems as though most people’s first reaction to meeting someone and finding out their last name is to immediately “friend” them on Facebook. After the friendship is complete, ladies go straight into the men pictures looking for any recurring faces… like his ex-girlfriend and the men too, go straight into your pictures looking for Spring Break pictures. Both of these are wrong, it immediately leads to development of odd feelings putting end to what has not really started. Facebook is a great social networking tool, but it shouldn’t replace good old-fashioned getting to know one another. 2. Follow him/her on twitter: Twitter is all about status updating platform for people to tell the world everything they’re thinking. While it may seem like a good idea to follow the person you just started dating, don’t you think that’s rushing the process a bit? When people tweet, they don’t necessarily tweet from the heart. There’s also a loss of tone and this might create wrong impression in your heart. Do you know if he or she is actually joking around or playing with their friends? You can easily misinterpret them to be offensive or rude, when in reality in reality you just create wrong feeling trying to get to know her better. 3. Ask invasive questions: Ask anybody who knows me and will tell you that I believe in boundaries. I’m a little more complex than most guys because I’m very careful not to ask invasive questions because i personally believe it can create wrong impressions that would lead to similar questions being asked back. When you start asking questions like, “Why did you break up with your ex-boyfriend?” on the first date, or “So I wanted to ask you about [that embarrassing story from school that they've somehow uncovered by doing a deep dive on your past], or How was the first guy in bed” you are way out of line . When people ask me when is the right time to bring up the tough questions, I always say, “When they’re necessary and when discussion unintentionally leads to asking", not when you feel like you need to know.” 4. Rush things: Don't rush things. The easiest way to get to a meaningful relationship is to develop the relationship organically meaning naturally and at a normal pace without any additives. I understand that no one likes idle time. I also understand that people are goal-oriented. But for God’s sake, don’t rush the relationship! Take your time, give both yourselves time to want to be in the midst of a relationship. You can’t go from dinner on Friday night, to an early morning text about brunch on Saturday, to “how do you feel about going to 8 o’clock service with me on Sunday?” Take your time, don't rush things, you will scare the other person away if you start smothering them out the gate. Avoiding the above tips in the early stage of your relationship will go a long way in helping you to creating an atmosphere where love abound. Feel free to contact me through my email ikawo4u@gmail.com or by simply filling the contact me form on the left side of this page.