LADIES: TOP TEN BRANDS OF MEN YOU SHOULD NOT CONSIDER TO MARRY.

For MATURED Singles ONLY.

Popularlar Demand.

1. SOMEONE who DOES NOT have a relationship with JESUS CHRIST.

If he does not know God, he does not have the capacity to love.

2. SOMEONE who DOES not LOOK GOOD/PRESENTABLE to YOU.

You must like him or her enough to want to be with him. God is not against your desires.

Your partner must be presentable to you and by you.

3. SOMEONE WHO IS ALREADY MARRIED.

Don't be carried away by the lures and glamour of a married man or woman's attention.

4. SOMEONE WHO IS A THIEF.

A thief is someone who is not working or productively engaged.

You must be economically engaged before you are maritally engaged.

5. SOMEONE who is not under any AUTHORITY.

Someone who lacks an authority figure in his or her life, who is not accountable or answerable to superiors is a marital gamble.

6. SOMEONE who is easily ANGRY and FURIOUS.

Anger is explosive and destructive.

7. SOMEONE who ABUSES YOU.

Abuse is abnormal or improper use of something.

Young lady, your fiance is not your source of income or finance. Its just a relationship; not a job opportunity.

8. SOMEONE who is a STRANGER

Don't be an innocent victim. Be a relationship investigator.

9. SOMEONE who most of your loved ones THINK YOU SHOULD NOT MARRY.

Its risky to marry someone who, a large percentage of your loved ones, have reservations for.

Don't just ignore the intuitions and reservations of your loved ones.

10. SOMEONE who DOES NOT WANT TO MARRY YOU.

Ladies beware! Someone who is not willing to marry you should not be pressured into marriage.

He must want you badly enough to want to settle down with you.

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12 Easy WaysTo Capture His Heart And Make Him Love You Forever

Do you want to know the secrets on capturing a man’s heart? Who doesn’t right? Whether it’s a boyfriend, husband, or a long-time crush, women would practically do anything to make their man fall hopelessly in-love with them. I’m sure you also want the same thing. So, I will no longer keep you in great suspense. Here are 12 things you can do to capture his heart and make him love you forever:

1. FOCUS ON YOUR SELF
 Probably one of the classic mistakes made by most women is this: They tend to lose their identity once they fall in love. They forget about their social life, life passions, career, and isolate themselves from friends and family. Here’s a quick question. Have you ever thought that perhaps it was the old you that really caught his attention? Don’t fall into this trap as he will miss the independent, confident woman he met in the first place.
2. TELL HIM
If he did something annoying, tell him. If you have feelings for him, tell him. Remember, men were not born with psychic abilities. They also don’t have a Ph.D. on deciphering complicated “female talk” or body language. #3: BE COMFORTABLE IN YOUR OWN SKIN Be confident—I know it’s such a cliché, but hear me out first. Being confident is good because… Men find confidence really sexy. Confidence is also an instant beauty enhancer. The positive vibe that you exude tells a man you’re complete and very ready to form a healthy relationship with him. Besides, if you can’t love who you are, quirks and all, how can you expect him to love you too?

4. THROW COMPLIMENTS HIS WAY
Of course, don’t be fake or over the top. Give him your sincerest compliment. You don’t always have to express it through words. Perhaps you can give your man an approving look when he dresses up really nice. Or, perhaps you could give him a smile for taking out the garbage.

5. DON’T TRY CHANGING HIM
Your man, or any man for that matter, doesn’t like it when you try to make him do something he doesn’t want to do. Let me give you a few examples: Engage in sports instead of playing computer games Getting a real job Stop smoking Stop being a meat fanatic. Eat more veggies and fruits ,

6. LET GO OF THE SMALL STUFF
 Before you lose it, ask yourself, would it really kill me if I choose not to let this one bother me? Seriously, would your world crumble if your man didn’t flush the toilet or forgets to buy something you specifically asked for? I’m not however saying you just remain quiet and let your man have his way all the time. What I’m trying to say is that you choose your battles carefully.

7. LEARN THE ART OF COMPROMISE
You and your man are not always going to share the same opinions 24/7. And that’s pretty normal. Remember, you two are in a relationship, not in a battle arena.

8. DON’T KEEP HIM ON A TIGHT LEASH
Are you guilty of this In most cases, the cause of this issue is low self-confidence. A woman who has a negative view of herself tends to keep his man on a tight leash because she’s scared that he might leave her for someone else. If you truly want to capture his heart and make him love you forever, give him space. The more you make him feel freer, the greater the possibility that he’ll stay with you for good.

9. NEVER USE THE “SILENT TREATMENT”
 A friend once told me that if there’s one thing that really annoys her husband it’s the silent treatment. It really drives a man crazy when you don’t tell him what’s bugging you. Vague replies, like, “I don’t know,” are not going to magically solve things. As what I’ve said in advice number 2, just tell him (nicely), so you two can smooth things out and be happy again.

10. DON’T GET CAUGHT IN THE BLAMING GAME
How many times have you blown your fuse over things that your man didn’t really do? If you’re feeling stressed, annoyed,or whatever, don’t immediately let your man take the blame. Know what it is that’s bothering you, and then ask your man to give you time to clear your head and remove the negative vibe from your system.
11. HAVE FIRM, HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP BOUNDARIES
Your man would love and respect you more if you have firm but healthy relationship boundaries. He would really appreciate it if you share your thoughts, ask for help (if necessary), respect his ideas without trampling your own, don’t need constant reassurance, or grow distant without warning.

12. DON’T FORGET TO BEAUTIFY
Yes, true beauty is within, and your man most likely knows that. However, it doesn’t mean that you stop paying attention on how you look. You really don’t have to undergo an extreme makeover. Just dressing up once in a while or wearing make-up when you go out would do. If over the years you’ve gained more weight, you might want to start hitting the gym to get fit and healthy. He will love you more knowing that you’re taking care of yourself.

Source: relationshipking.com

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3 Tips that Will Enhance Your Dating Life

One of the greatest pleasures of being single is dating. It can be a lot of fun and adventure if you are willing and committed to enjoying the process. Having a good dating life boils down to a few key points. If you implement these points into your dating habits, you will find that dating doesn’t have to seem like you’re out to chase the man or woman of your dreams like you are hunting wild game. Going out and enjoying someone else’s company doesn’t have to seem like a chore, it can be fun and something to look forward to if you keep these ideas in mind:

1. Remember, You are Under No Obligation Other than the societal norms of being punctual and polite, you have no obligation to any man or woman you might be dating. You want to get to know someone, not immediately become their husband-to-be or wife-to-be. Each case is different, some will move faster than others. That said, be fully aware that you are in complete control of the situation. If it’s not fun, if it doesn’t work for you anymore, if the compatibility or attraction is lacking, you can leave the situation. Singles sometimes “settle” because it’s been a while since they have had someone and they feel they can’t “do better.” You can andwilldo better! The only obligation you have is to yourself to patiently wait to find the person who has been designed just for you.

2. Be Open to the Possibilities It turns out that the lady of my dreams was someone that I initially declined a blind date request from my friend to go out with her. I’m glad I changed my mind! If you want to date and really enjoy your dating life, be open to all it has to offer.It’s ok to date someone who doesn’t fit your normal “type.” It’s a good thing to date people who don’t bring to the table what you bring to the table. It’s cool to date someone with either a higher or lower income than you. It’s ok to date someone who has hair of a different texture or skin of a different color than yours. You never know what you could learn about someone else and what you may learn about yourself if you expand how you think in terms of who you date, what a date consists of and what the date may lead to. Being open is a huge factor in every single person’s mindset when it comes to dating.

3. Date with a Purpose I have written on this topic several times, because your intentis a priority when dating. Dating is like everything else we do in life, we want to have a vision, goals and a purpose for doing what we are doing. What this does is set some (maybe not rigid, but some) parameters around what you are doing and what you want to get out of a dating relationship. If you know you’re dating with the idea of marriage as the goal, then when you find out someone is not marriage material for you, you have the responsibility to your vision to move on. Marriage is only one purpose.
Dating can be to get to know many people and find out what you really want and need out of a mate. I know people who went from their parents’ house to a marriage and never had time to find out what they wanted in a mate before they did it. Dating can help to alleviate this. Dating will often show you what you don’t want in a person to help you figure out what you actually want in a mate.
 You owe it to yourself to be intentional about your

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7 Obvious Signs He Is The One!

So you want to know if he is the one? Read on and thank me later….
1. He’s dating you with a purpose
What do men mean when they say “Oh, we’re just hanging out”? Or how about “we’re getting to know each other and see where it goes”? Okay, you can do that as friends, but if you’re going to date do it with a purpose. Is marriage your goal? If not, time is being wasted and who really has time for that?
2. Your relationship is exclusive
Are people really okay with dating multiple people at a time? Sounds pretty dumb to me. How can you fully get to know a potential life partner, if your time and attention is divided? No mam, your relationship needs to be exclusive. If he wants you, he wants only you. That’s it, that’s all.
3. Family is a priority
Is he excited about taking you around his family? He should be. When a man finds a good woman, he wants to show you off to all of his family and friends. The most important people in his life MUST meet the most important woman in his life. Also, the same applies for your family. He should want to see the foundation that helped shape and make you the woman you are today.
4. He encourages transparency in your relationship
There were so many things I was embarrassed and ashamed of, that I would try to hide from Steve. It was so dumb, because he could care less about my gray eyelash or unruly eyebrows. He wanted me to be okay in every area: mentally, physically, spiritually, etc. Once I rested in this, the floodgates opened and I felt comfortable sharing EVERYTHING with him; my insecurities, my disappointments, my pain, etc. It’s a beautiful thing to be open and transparent with the one who loves you, they help make it all better
5. He puts a ring on it
It’s an overwhelming feeling to know a man loves you to the point of purchasing you a ring and gets on one knee to ask YOU (no other woman) to be his wife. And by overwhelming, I mean mind-blowing in a good way. I mean it’s one thing to say he wants to marry you, but to prove it with a ring speaks volumes. P.S. That moment you hear Beyonce’s “Single Ladies” for the first time AFTER getting engaged is a priceless moment! Couldn’t nobody tell me nothing!
6 . He marries you
Major side eye to the couples who’ve been “engaged” for YEARS. These people have been engaged for so long that no one even cares anymore, lol. What’s the hold up homie? Some men are known for giving women a ring to take off SOME of the pressure of actually getting married. You know, just to pacify her. Shame on them. Shout out to the men who propose AND get married.
7. He makes it last forever
There’s nothing like a man who honors his vows “in good times & bad times”. Bad times will come, that’s obvious, but the one for you will weather the storm. Yep, he’ll give you that forever type love. Source: Blackand marriedwithkids.com

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Things You Should Never Do For A Lover

Things You Should Never Do For A Lover You’ve Not Married:

Love is about giving in and giving up a few things, but…

1. Don’t change your personality. Now, they say you should change for the one you love. Yes, that is true. But when the changing comes from you alone and it seems like you’re being re-manufactured, then something is wrong. No man or woman should attempt to change you entirely, unless you really have bad habits. Aside this, in the event that you’re separated, the hurt will be worsened by the fact you won’t recognise yourself. You’ll be nothing without that person. A person who loves you must accept the real you.

2. Don’t abandon your dreams: This is another one you should be careful about. Two people in love ca exist without killing each other’s dreams. It is a good thing for both of you to alter your careers and dreams to accommodate each other. But there is a limit. A true lover would aid your dream, ask you to abandon it. Work out a middle way. If you lose your dream for a relationship that is not yet solid, marriage especially, sorry will be your consolation when it ends.

3. Don’t abandon your friends and family. Hmmm, it really is sad that some people let love kill their relationships with kith and kin that they had before meeting their lover. They do not realise that friends are the only thing you can fall back to when you hit life’s road bumps. If a lover makes it a case to break your link to friends and family, please exit. They should find a way to accommodate your friends. If you lose your friends to that relationship, what happens if it ends?

4. Don’t set up businesses or share details of official information. Many people think it is love to expose their entire business plans and financial information to a supposed lover. But this is dangerous. A lot of people ‘love’ just to deceive and maybe swindle. If they have access to sensitive official details, like ATM card pins, internet bank passwords, property document details, etc, you are exposed to danger!

5. Don’t become a donor agency. Lovers should help each other, morally and financially. However, don’t be saddled to a leech, a tick who only feeds off you. You’re not a bank account or donor agency to anyone. As you give, make sure it’s reasonable, and for genuine needs. A lover who always returns for more is a gold-digger, a fraud that you don’t need. Small money gifts are cool, but should not become the norm and basis of love.

6. Don’t give unofficial loans, bad personal investments. Loans are relationship killers. If a lover wants huge sums of money from you, be wise and make it legal. At worst, make sure the money is deposited to his/her bank account, to leave a trail that can be used to retrieve it in case you guys fight. To withdraw N200,000 and give to your lover in cash as a loan is not wise. Instead, transfer via bank and write ‘loan’. If the money is big a signed IOU might be necessary. Also avoid foolish investments like setting up businesses or funding projects without legal documents. This may look rigid, but many people have killed ex-lovers because they could not retrieve their ‘investments’.

7. Don’t give unfettered access to private emails and social media accounts. In these modern times, social media accounts are very sensitive. It should be as personal as possible. Making it a public affair for a transient lover is bad, bad and bad. Imagine the damage they could do if you break up? He or she could for example lock you out of your own account or even send out compromising messages through your account.

8. Don’t reveal compromising information or damaging materials. When we fall in love, there is the temptation to talk too much, way too much than we need to. There should a lot of discussion between people in a relationship. But some things should never be said to some people who are not yet fully committed to a relationship. Sharing intimate secrets will put you up for future attacks. Ex-lovers are fond of sharing demining info

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