How To Get A Man To Propose To You

Most men, who are willing to get married, just want a happy and easy-going woman who has good values. Want a marriage proposal fast? Then embrace these tips
1. You are not bossy When a man first meets you, and thinks your character trait is OK, he starts to feel he should propose and walk down the aisle with you. However, once he starts to feel like he is in grammar school being told what to do by his teacher, he will take a walk.
2. Don’t play games with his heart Never ever think that being a game player will help you get a man. Though he might be intrigued by a hard-to-get lady in the beginning, as soon as he decides that he is interested in her, all he wants is an honest straight-shooter.
3. Don’t want to change him Some women claim to love a man ‘just the way he is’ but little by little, they want to change everything about him. First, it’s his wardrobe, then, it’s his taste in music. Never attempt to change his friends and his hobbies either.
 4. You don’t get jealous A jealous woman is on edge always because she is very distrusting. Just because you have been hurt in the past, don’t be on guard for anything that looks or feels wrong. When a man first meets such a woman, he wants to reassure her that he is nothing like that guy in her past. However, once she accuses him one too many times, he will have no choice but to leave her because he can’t go through his life being prosecuted for somebody else’s crimes. So, learn to trust.
5. You are not clingy As a woman, you must have something going on in your own life so that you are not always clinging to him. Don’t be too difficult for a man to date, let alone marry. At first, he is flattered that you are so in love with him and wants to be around him always; but very quickly, he feels overwhelmed and suffocated by you.
6. You don’t see him as a father Not all men like to be viewed as a father figure. Initially, he might like how you look to him for approval and the answer to all of your questions, but soon, he realises that he wants to be intimate with a real woman, not someone who is stuck in her teen years trying to get daddy to notice her. 7. Not tied to your mother’s apron strings A man is comfortable with you when he realises you don’t call on your mother always to make a decision on your affair with him. He gets scared the more when you cannot do without getting her opinion on everything.
8. You don’t talk about others always Most guys are turned off when you always love to gossip and talk about other people. Not only that, when you love to hear things about other people as well. Initially, this could entertain him but eventually, he begins to wonder what you are saying when he is not around.
9. You are yourself You don’t have to be everyone else! A lady, who is constantly talking about what other people do and what they have, places a lot of undue pressure on her man. Be yourself, live your size per time and shun pretences.
10. You appreciate his mother/siblings Never make negative comments on mothers-in-law whenever you are around him. Let him know his mother is as special to you just as she is to him. His siblings? Show love to even the nastiest of them all.

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Foods That Can Put You In A Bad Mood

Having mood problems? You might be surprised that the foods you’re eating could be the culprit.
1. Grabbing a bagel in the morning sounds like a great idea. However, it will spike your blood sugar and lead to a mid morning crash of the blahs and muddied thinking. Studies have shown that eating refined carbohydrates (like bagels) increased depression up to 60 percent in some people.
2.Too much caffeine gives a swift boost to your energy because it triggers the pituitary gland and causes an adrenalin release. Then the caffeine crash follows. Agitation and anxiety from drinking a vast amount of caffeinated drinks will affect your mood and zap your energy. Try drinking green tea or coconut water when you feel lethargic.
3. Cakes, cookies or a candy bar seems fitting when 3 p.m. rolls around. As you know, the sugar rush will not last and your mood will take a sharp dip, leaving you to crave even more sweets. Try fruit instead.
4. Packaged meats like hotdogs and lunch meats are loaded with nitrates and cause tension headaches, low moods, and can swell your ankles.

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Health Update: How turning up the central heating could keep you slim!

Turning up the central heating may cost a few pounds, but it could keep off the kilos. A new study out on Tuesday shows that people who live in warm homes are less likely to be fat and tend to have lower body mass index (BMI) levels than those who shiver through winter. Researchers at the University of Stirling in Scotland have uncovered a direct link between higher temperatures and lower levels of body fat in a 13-year study involving more than 100,000 adults who rely on central heating. They claim It is not just what we eat and how much exercise we do that determines how heavy we are - the temperature at which people heat their homes could have a major impact on whether they can keep to their ideal body weight, the study suggests. In recent years scientists have suggested that warmer indoor temperatures have been a major contributing factor to rises in obesity levels in the US, Canada, UK and Europe. However, researchers from Stirling Management School's Behavioural Science Centre show that the opposite appears to be the case - there is a direct link between higher temperatures and lower levels of body fat. The study used BMI levels to indicate levels of body fat and noted those who live in well-heated homes are more likely to have low BMI levels, while people who spend less time with their heating turned up - or on at all - tend to be heavier. Study co-author Dr Michael Daly, a behavioural scientist, said: 'We set out to investigate the scientific claims that cooler indoor temperatures help us maintain a healthy weight by pushing our bodies to expend more energy through shivering and generating heat through tissues. 'In fact, the research suggests people may eat less and burn more energy when residing in a warmer indoor environment.' The study takes into account factors such as excessive calorie intake and low levels of physical activity, but it is the first to examine the association between indoor household temperature and population BMI levels. Dr Daly said: 'We contrasted BMI levels for people living in different temperature groups in England and found reduced weight levels among people living in homes heated to above 73.4 degrees Fahrenheit (23 degrees Celsius), which was reflective of about 15,000 of the households studied. 'This research suggests the obesity epidemic could worsen where heating is turned down below comfortable levels, or off, for lengthy periods to cut costs. 'This is not just about people who live in well-heated homes being in the financial position to afford more expensive low-calorie foods, exercise classes and sporting activities and therefore finding it easier to maintain a low BMI level. The study took age, gender, social class and other factors into account. 'The comfortable ambient temperature of 68.5-73.4 degrees Fahrenheit (20.3-23 degrees Celsius) is where we feel comfortable in our clothes and are neither hot, nor cold. At temperatures above this we expend more energy and we eat less because our appetite is suppressed.' The study is published in the international science journal Obesity.

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The Girl child pay the price for Daddy's rugged good looks!

Marrying a tall, dark and ruggedly handsome man may be every woman’s dream – but it could be bad news for any daughter they produce. For she is likely to inherit some of her father’s macho traits, a study shows. Scientists say that children who have beautiful parents have up to a 70 per cent likelihood of being attractive too. But while a good-looking woman who has children with a macho man may well produce eye-catchingly handsome sons, the attractiveness of any daughter may suffer as some of her father’s manliness would be passed on. ‘If you want to have good-looking kids you should marry someone who is good looking. That would be the simplest analysis,’ said researcher Professor Tim Bates from Edinburgh University. But he added: ‘If a woman was picking a mate who seemed very attractive because he was very masculine, she would be possibly making her sons more appealing but equally making her daughters less attractive. ‘Which means probably women won’t evolve preferences for highly masculine men because there as many costs as there are benefits in their children.’ The international study, published in the journal Behavior Genetics, involved 1,580 people aged 15 to 22 in the US and Australia having their looks assessed by eight judges. It concluded sons and daughters both get good looks from good parental genes. ‘There is the popular misquotation of Shakespeare that beauty is in the eye of the beholder,’ Professor Bates said. ‘If that was true then you might think those eight judges would prefer totally different people, but in fact they were agreeing 90 per cent of the time on the ratings.’ ‘Inherited attractiveness could be a whole range of things from healthy hair, healthy skin, to symmetrical face, and height. ‘It’s a mixture you are passing on. Some things that make for attractiveness, such as being symmetrical is a good thing, and if you pass on symmetry that will make your children similarly attractive to yourself. ‘But some things are valued in one sex, and either not valued or actually not liked in the other. ‘Very masculine fathers will be passing that “masculine look” on to their daughters, and that won’t help when people come to rate their attractiveness.’

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Ideal Ways To Get A Man To Do Anything You Want

No more nagging! Kill ‘em with kindness, bring backup, and more foolproof ways to get what you want. How do you get a guy to give you what you want? Here’s a hint: No more nagging. Avoid fighting, complaining, shouting, tears and pouting. Seriously; all it takes is some sweet old-fashioned charm like only a woman could give (we swear!). From buttering him up to leaning in for a long kiss before you ask him to clean the apartment, we’ve mastered the skill of getting your guy to just about anything.
1. Don’t Fear The Damsel In Distress Act “Whenever I want a guy to do something, I put the sweet on and act innocent. I’ll do just about everything except bat my eyelashes — but it works! Even though I’m not naïve, I’ll act that way and put a little extra sugar on everything I say and do toward him,” says Erin.
2. Bring Backup “My boyfriend loves surprises (even though he’d never admit that), so I always come prepared. If I want him to go out with me and my girlfriends one night, or if I want him to help me clean the apartment, I make sure to stop and pick up something that he’ll really love — or something that he’s been hinting that he wants. There’s no arguments, no huffing and puffing — just a little surprise and then he’s in my pocket,” says Lisa, “Seriously, it doesn’t get any easier than that.”
3. Make Him Think The Idea Was His “My mom let me in on a secret when my husband and I first started dating. She said that the best way to get through anything was to make him think it was his idea. You’ve got to be coy, but whenever I want Jed to do something,” says Hannah, “I make sure he thinks he came up with it — even if he knows he didn’t. The fact that I’m conceding (and letting him think he’s won) is the best way to get through everything.”
4. Go Old School “Call me crazy, but I just ask nicely — like, really, really nicely. If my guy knows that it’s important to me, I just tell him how important it is and then I promise to make it up to him afterward,” Tara says, “How could a guy say no to that?”
5. Kill ‘Em With Kindness “Oh,” says Morgan, “I make sure to butter him up well before I ask him to do anything. So it doesn’t look too obvious, I’ll start much earlier in the day and just make him feel really good about himself. Then, when he’s all buttered up, I’ll let him know that we’re going to spend the weekend with my parents! How could a guy get pissed at a girl who’s just spent the whole day giving him what he wants?”
6. Lean In… For A Kiss “There’s nothing sweeter than a long kiss before asking for something,” Meagan jokes, “It’s kind of my way of saying ‘Yes, I need something from you, but I’m not gonna fight you for it.’ I think a guy can appreciate that — and uh, who doesn’t love a hot, steamy kiss?”
7. Give One, Get One “I go first,” Brittany says. “I’ll make dinner for my husband and then he’ll take the lead and clean up — without me having to nag. Or I’ll buy him dinner and then the next time we go out for a date, he picks up the check. I think by seeing me take the initiative first, he’s more likely to realize that he wants to do something nice in return. It’s give one, get one, but for relationships, ha!”

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4 Types Of Women You Should NEVER Date

Here are the do’s and don’ts of going after forbidden pleasure.
1. Best Friend’s Girl
PROS You’ve had the luxury of knowing each other over a long period of time, under a range of circumstances–and lighting
CONS If you’re the reason for the breakup, you’ll definitely be one friend short, and maybe more if your other friends choose sides.
VERDICT Thumbs down.
2. Ex’s Sister
PROS She already knows your shortcomings–the ins and outs of your last relationship, and why it went south.And she’s with you anyway.
CONS Holidays with her family will suck.
VERDICT Thumbs down
3. Stripper
PROS She has the best thong-and-stiletto collection you’ve ever seen.
CONS She makes her living undressing for other men.
VERDICT Thumbs down

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20 Questions To Ask A Potential Spouse

So, here are 20 questions to ask a potential spouse. These are just suggestions, and by no means should all of them be asked on a first date. If a question doesn’t feel right to you, then don’t ask it. Or, just replace it with one that is not on the list. The point is to get singles who desire to be married to think carefully about what’s important to them and then to have open communication about these issues before marriage. There are plenty of married and divorced people who wish they had asked the tough questions before saying “I do.”
1. Do you have any life-threatening or incurable diseases?
2. Do you have any children? If so, how integral are they in your life?
3. What are your short term and long term goals?
4. What does financial stability mean to you?
5. What is your relationship like with your parents?
6. How often do you go to church, pray, read your Bible?
7. What gives you joy in life?
8. Do you have a criminal history or record?
9. Do you date men or women exclusively?
10. How many s*xual partners have you had?
11. What do you do when you get angry?
12. Do you have a job? How long have you been working/unemployed?
13. What was your last relationship like? How long ago was it?
14. What are you looking for in a mate?
15. Do you have crazy men or women calling, texting, or stalking you? Should I be afraid?
16. Are there many strong marriages in your family history?
17. What’s the one thing you don’t like about yourself?
18. Do you have any deal breakers for relationships?
19. What do you believe are the roles for men and women in relationships?
20. Do you desire to marry? Now, there are no right or wrong answers per se. It all depends on what you deem as important. If a question matters to you, ask the question. Listen to the person’s words but also watch the person’s demeanor. Finally, pray about the answers you receive and ask God to order your next steps in the relationship. He might tell you to walk down the aisle or He might say walk the other way. You will never know until you ask.

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How To Get A Woman To Agree To Marry You

There are many reasons why a woman will accept a man’s proposal. On the other hand, there are many reasons she could walk out on you. Do women call it quits after you have invested all your feelings and all in the relationship?
Here are steps to make her say ‘yes’ You are not hasty Until she sees you as someone she can end up with as a partner, don’t be so eager to start discussing moving in together or having babies. You don’t use bad words, Avoid using bad and derogatory words in the presence of a lady. You observe table manners Do not to lick the plate, burp or avoid using cutlery when eating.
Also it is not very decent to chew and talk at the same time. You don’t come cheap Cheap behaviour has nothing to do with your inability to shower the lady with expensive gifts. It is in the way you react to expenses. Though it is general knowledge that times are tough, worrying over every penny makes you look cheap and a little mean.
You don’t talk about your ex When you talk about your ex all the time, she is bound to come to a conclusion that you are not over her. Also, you may be over her but talking about her shows that you are not taking your girl friend for granted. No woman likes competition. Visible or otherwise. You are not mummy’s boy Your mother definitely has an important role to play in your life. But that does not mean you have to consult her on every decision you make. Once you have grown past the age of 18, your mother should not be buying your underwear or telling you who to date. Moreover, get an apartment and be independent of your parents! You don’t brag always It is a major turn off when you talk about yourself always. Slow down and ask the lady a question once in a while. Engage in conversation that is not focused on your achievements and challenges. You are not artificial Every woman loves a compliment, but if you hand out compliments too often, it will be obvious that you are just trying to get into her good books. It sounds pretentious and women don’t like it. Also, if you don’t agree with what she is saying, you are free to say so. Nodding in agreement to everything is a huge turn-off. You are not socially inept Behave well when you are in public. Say “please” and “thank you”. Have moderate s*x expectations Not every woman can be a tiger in bed. If you are too demanding, she may run.

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How to Stop Attracting the Wrong Guy

What man is attracted to a woman who thinks that she’s not worth anything? You need to have the confidence and self-esteem to project dateability.
Everyone has positive qualities, even if they don’t realize it. Okay, so you don’t have a job or you don’t have a degree or you had a bad relationship that doesn’t mean that you wouldn’t be an understanding, compassionate, interesting and fun girlfriend. Everyone deserves a chance to give their best qualities to a partner, no matter their circumstances. You need to remember that you have a lot to offer and soon enough a handsome man will too!
Step 1:
Present a Positive Attitude Now that you’ve figured out that you deserve a happy relationship, you need to adjust your attitude so you can attract one. If you keep expecting to attract the wrong kind of guy, you’re projecting low expectations and a pessimistic attitude about love. So who do you think will be attracted to that? A pessimistic guy who isn’t looking to meet ambitious expectations and who doesn’t want a lot of boyfriend responsibilities. If you don’t present a positive attitude, you’re not going to catch the eye of a positive guy. There’s a quick tip to help keep your attitude positive, especially useful for those of you who hate dating. Approach every situation as though you’re going to to have a good time. Arrive to every date confident that the man on the other side of the table is going to be the love of your life. Because one of these times, he will be!
Step 2:
Figure Yourself Out If you’ve mastered the first two steps and you still can’t seem to land a quality man, there might be a problem with your process. Do you know who you’re looking for? I’m not looking for a list like “Tall, dark and handsome.” Do you know what kind of relationship you want? If you haven’t decided what you’re looking for, how can you expect to find someone who satisfies you? You don’t have to settle for being a jerk-magnet. Use these three steps to change yourself instead of trying to change a dirtbag into a quality boyfriend

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Myths That Could Destroy Your Relationship

Modern relationship myths are responsible for many break-ups. If you’re in a relationship, don’t fall prey to these insidious beliefs. They will ruin your chances of long-term happiness. Myth #1: Relationships Are Hard Work When you believe that relationships are hard work, then your love life becomes about as much fun as cleaning the toilets and mopping floors. When you’re in a relationship with your beloved, being together shouldn’t be a chore. Relationships do, however, require attention. Fortunately, when you’re in love, you want to spend time with your mate. When tending to the relationship is a shared goal, then enjoying life together becomes a pleasure and a privilege! Myth #2: Love Means Never Having to Say You’re Sorry Quite the opposite — love means that when you mess up, you apologize. Your partner will see the best of you and the worst of you. They’ll see you when you’re angry, tired, hungry, and sleep deprived. If you are cranky, or worse, nasty, even when it feels like you have a good reason, then say that you’re sorry. You can teach your partner how to apologize by your example. Having a quarrel is inevitable. How you “repair” your quarrel is your choice. So say “I’m sorry” and then have fun kissing and making up. Myth #3: Neither of Us Could Ever Have an Affair You may think that each of you is devoted, moral, and loyal. And yes, you probably both have the best of intentions. However, we all have needs for emotional and physical intimacy. Therefore, if you start to neglect your relationship or develop parallel lives, it’s likely that one or the other of you could start looking for intimacy, even unintentionally, outside the marriage. When you know that an affair is possible, it keeps you motivated to tend to your relationship and make sure that both of you are feeling satisfied. Don’t take your fidelity for granted! Myth #4: Once We Get Married, Then Everything Will Be Perfect If you’re dating or living together, sometimes there is the fantasy that everything will be better if you just get a ring and a legal document of commitment. Then, you think you’ll feel safe, happy, and settled. Unfortunately, relationships don’t work that way. Marriage brings its own array of stresses (financial, legal, etc.) It isn’t a magic pill to fix or improve a relationship. If you can’t be happy together before marriage, it’s unlikely that a ceremony is going to cure what ails you. First, make your relationship great, and then maybe marriage will be in the cards. Myth #5: My Partner Knows That I Love Him, So I Don’t Need to Say It Wrong again. We all need to hear this in multiple ways, over and over again. So tell your partner with words, with love notes, with gifts, with thoughtful gestures, with texts, with phone messages, with hugs, and with healthy relationship habits every day! We are wired to attach to people and we need to know every day that we matter, that we’re appreciated, and that someone has chosen us to be their special one. Don’t assume that your partner is feeling this, show them again and again. An outpouring of love strengthens your bond and ensures that your partner doesn’t feel taken for granted. Improve your relationship education and bust these five myths out of your life. Once you do, you’ll be well on your way to living happily ever after. thehuffingtonpost

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Major Distractions Affecting Marriages Today

When you reflect on a few of your major life goals, what do you notice? Do they consist of a better paying job, landing your dream career or do they typically revolve around your love life and having a meaningful relationship? Whatever our goals may be, sometimes they aren’t always easy to achieve.
We often have to overcome certain obstacles in order to obtain what we really want. There are usually personal challenges, or other people’s agendas that stand in the way of our happiness and complete relationship satisfaction. Those things are distractions and prevent us from experiencing true joy in our marriages.
If love, peace and joy are major priorities for our unions, it is important that we be aware of the major distractions that affect our marriages.
1. Selfishness. Too many of us are caught up in our own selfish wants and it diverts the attention away from our partners. Marriage is about putting our spouse first and making sure their needs are met before our own. We must remember that we are not in a relationship by ourselves; marriage is about giving more than we take.
2. Job-Related Stress. The stress that we allow to come home and dwell with us will eventually kill our marriage if it isn’t stopped. The pressure eats away at us causing frustration and resentment that we bring home and share with our partners. It affects our communication, confidence and overall health. When we are stressed by our job, it’s best to allow our spouse to support us, be that shoulder we need to lean on and that listening ear; instead of a punching bag to release on.
3. Other people or a grass is greener mentality. Exes on Facebook who make us feel good, a cute new friendly coworker who shows us a little bit of attention, and those not so real friends who are quick to tell us to walk away from a relationship when there is a small challenge are all major disturbances. The silver lining with this one is that we are still in control. Staying focused on the positives in our marriage leaves little room left for these other diversions.
4. Self-Doubt and Self-Consciousness. Being worried about things like the baby weight we’re struggling to get rid of will result in our not feeling attractive or appealing to our mate. This will ultimately make us shy away from intimate experiences with our spouse. Whenever we feel inadequate we must take action. So if it’s weight let’s work at losing it and changing our diet. But we must keep in mind, we are as sexy as we feel and we must continue to do the things that make us feel good about ourselves.
5. Money or lack of money. Money makes people lose sight of what’s most important. Many couples tend to fight over money, not be completely honest about money and have a secret “just-in-case” account which shows a lack of trust for the other partner. We cannot allow money to have dominion over our relationships. If there is less of it, we have to get creative and be honest and smart with our decisions. But love, health and joy should outweigh money any day. Because our marriages are so fragile today, it is crucial that we remain aware of the distractions that threaten to destroy our unions. Acknowledging the challenge definitely takes some of its power away. I challenge all the couples reading this post, to fight back. With a strong desire and partnership we can overcome any of the above distractions. BMWK

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Ladies; Having Male Friend Can Help Heal Heart Break

Having heart break can feel like the world is coming to an end. In real sense only a few things match the emotional tidal wave of a breakup, other than the death of a loved one, there is no other moments in human experience that matches the hurt and despair of the end of what was expected to be an everlasting partnership. It feels like death. Unless you’re one of the rare ones that finds your true, lifelong love on the very first try, you’re going to experience that agony on more than one occasion…and it never gets easier, no matter how old you get.
Most of us have developed our own coping methods and strategies to help us power through those periods, so I won’t bore you with tips you’ve heard a million times. So here’s one consideration you may not have considered on the path to a healed heart: After that split, turn to your best guy friend. Maybe it seems counter-intuitive. After all, it’s easy to turn your nose up to men after a particularly nasty falling out, but who better to assist you in reminding you that there are a bunch of great guys still out there than your best male friend? I see and hear so many women talked about how terrible men are, how all the great guys are taken, how all men are dogs. More often than not, those ladies have few to zero close relationships with guys. I’ve found that the women who do have close platonic relationships with guys seem to have more positive and more optimistic perspectives on men, in general. Think about it. Your girlfriends are more apt to go down the “guys suck” road. You don’t need that. Your girlfriends are more likely to join you on that complaint train. They do it because it’s easy and they want to support you in the easiest way they can. When you’re sullen and down and hiding out at home on the couch with a pint of Ben & Jerry’s watching “The Notebook” for the thousandth time, your girlfriends will be right there to join you. Your guy friend is quite likely to throw a little tough love your way: “Hey! Get up off the couch! We’re going to the movies! This is a no-feeling-sorry-for-yourself zone!” Believe it or not, no matter how manly or macho your guy friend happens to be, when it comes to you, he’s probably as gentle and comforting as a teddy bear.
Virtually every guy has that loving, supportive, sensitive side. It’s not especially cool to show that sensitivity with the rest of the guys, but the dynamic between a guy and a woman who are truly friends is special. He’ll drop everything to listen to you, to comfort you, to support you in a way that’s uniquely special from your girlfriends. Not better – just different. That type of diversity in your support system, as anyone who has ever experienced it knows, is incredibly special and meaningful. Often women overlook the hidden benefits of the close male confidante, perhaps understandably so. Many people still cling to the misguided belief that men and women can’t ‘just be friends.’ The archaic narrative that every guy wants to hook up with every woman around him is still the overriding belief – even among many men. I’m here to tell you— it just ain’t so! The bonds of sisterhood are amazing in their own right, filled with the expected nurturing and support one would expect. But, trust me, the connection between you and you guy friend is one well worth cultivating when you need a breakup pick-me-up.

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Foods That Make You Gain Muscle Fast

Some foods quite unknown to majority of people can help increase muscle mass most especially for muscle loving guys. There are some little known foods that aid in gaining muscle fast, especially when paired with the right type of regular exercise and fitness. 1. Mackerel: Mackerel is a delicious fish similar to tuna in a number of ways as they come from the same family. The major advantage of mackerel over tuna is a much higher omega-3 fatty acid content. Omega-3 fatty acids can improve the body’s overall composition, which is key when it comes to building muscle. Other nutrients found in mackerel that promote rapid muscle building include zinc, which allows the body to maintain its testosterone levels. During intense resistance training, the body produces a series of thyroid hormones that allow muscle building. These testosterone levels naturally taper off, especially as exercises get more exhausting as time goes on. Extra zinc in a person’s diet from mackerel and other types of fish like salmon prevent the natural decrease of these thyroid hormones, which allows the body to build additional muscle. Another added benefit of mackerel is that it helps prevent chronic inflammation which generally results as the result of weight training, which allows a person to push themselves harder and longer, which results in a more intense recovery processes and bigger muscles in shorter periods of time. As with all fish, mackerel helps with more than building muscle. Fish of all types help maintain a healthy heart and lower your blood pressure, which are both qualities that reduce the risk of strokes, sudden and catastrophic heart attacks and abnormal heart rhythms. Mackerel can also prevent inflammation, reduce arthritis and decrease the risk of conditions like dementia, diabetes, attention deficit hyperactivity disorder and Alzheimer’s disease. 2. Chocolate milk Many professional athletes actually increase the amount of chocolate milk in their diets during intense workout routines as a delicious alternative to traditional methods like protein powder. The reason why chocolate milk is so beneficial for gaining muscle quickly is because it includes the two main types of proteins: fast digesting and slow digesting. The fast digesting protein in chocolate milk is whey, while the slow digesting protein in the drink is casein. As an additional benefit, chocolate milk has a great deal of sugar, which adds to the overall number of carbohydrates. These benefits actually work in conjunction with one another. The fast and slow digesting proteins aid in muscle building, while the added carbohydrate content allows your body to recover from intense periods of exercise much faster. 3. Vinegar Vinegar is beneficial for building muscle quickly because it allows your body to push the types of nutrients you ingest through your healthy diet directly into your muscles and away from the fat cells get naturally stored in your body. Muscle growth via an increase intake of nutrients is a key part of building a physique both muscular and lean. If the nutrients are absorbed into the fat cells in your body, however, they essentially go to waste and not only makes muscle more difficult to build but make the fat cells harder to burn off. If you’re already eating a meal high in carbohydrates, adding a little vinegar can be a great way to concert additional carbohydrates to glycogen. Glycogen is a key component your body needs to build muscle on a regular basis. 4. Raspberries: Raspberries are an unlikely but pivotal ally to anyone trying to build muscle quickly. For starters, eating raspberries on a regular basis is proven to improve a person’s digestive health. A healthy digestive system allows your body to more efficiently process all of the foods you’re eating during your daily meals, which makes nutrients act in more beneficial ways overall. 5. Water: When people think about the types of things they should be eating and drinking to build muscle as quickly as possible, few actually think of water as a viable solution. What those people don’t realize is that muscles are made up of around 80 percent water, so maintaining proper hydration is incredibly important to not only building new muscles quickly but keeping the ones you’ve already worked so hard for. Studies have shown that if a person’s water composition changes even by as little as one percent, it can dramatically impair their ability to build new muscle even after the most intense workouts. Dehydration both impairs a person’s ability to exercise properly and negatively affects the body’s recovery process. 6. Coffee: Coffee is a great tool in the fight to build muscle as quickly as possible due to its high caffeine content. In addition to healthy foods act as natural fuel for the body, adding caffeine to your diet allows you to work out harder and for longer periods of time, both of which are key factors to building the muscles of your dreams

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Things You Should Never Do When You First Start Dating

The genesis stage of your courtship, relationship or whatever you call it when you first start dating is quint essentially the most important time. While you’re excited to have met someone new or actually moving on to a new part of your life, it’s a time where you have to make sure you don’t ruin things by getting too far ahead of yourself. There’s nothing that anyone can do about what goes on in your head about your new dating adventure, but the goal is to keep those things from coming out. Once those thoughts turn into actions, things can go awry or probably put an untimely end to your fantasies. To avoid this take it slowly and one step at a time. To help you get going with your new relationship, here are the Four Things You Should Never Do When You First Start Dating: 1. Facebook friend him/her: Going on to immediately to add your new partner can feel like stalking because it seems as though most people’s first reaction to meeting someone and finding out their last name is to immediately “friend” them on Facebook. After the friendship is complete, ladies go straight into the men pictures looking for any recurring faces… like his ex-girlfriend and the men too, go straight into your pictures looking for Spring Break pictures. Both of these are wrong, it immediately leads to development of odd feelings putting end to what has not really started. Facebook is a great social networking tool, but it shouldn’t replace good old-fashioned getting to know one another. 2. Follow him/her on twitter: Twitter is all about status updating platform for people to tell the world everything they’re thinking. While it may seem like a good idea to follow the person you just started dating, don’t you think that’s rushing the process a bit? When people tweet, they don’t necessarily tweet from the heart. There’s also a loss of tone and this might create wrong impression in your heart. Do you know if he or she is actually joking around or playing with their friends? You can easily misinterpret them to be offensive or rude, when in reality in reality you just create wrong feeling trying to get to know her better. 3. Ask invasive questions: Ask anybody who knows me and will tell you that I believe in boundaries. I’m a little more complex than most guys because I’m very careful not to ask invasive questions because i personally believe it can create wrong impressions that would lead to similar questions being asked back. When you start asking questions like, “Why did you break up with your ex-boyfriend?” on the first date, or “So I wanted to ask you about [that embarrassing story from school that they've somehow uncovered by doing a deep dive on your past], or How was the first guy in bed” you are way out of line . When people ask me when is the right time to bring up the tough questions, I always say, “When they’re necessary and when discussion unintentionally leads to asking", not when you feel like you need to know.” 4. Rush things: Don't rush things. The easiest way to get to a meaningful relationship is to develop the relationship organically meaning naturally and at a normal pace without any additives. I understand that no one likes idle time. I also understand that people are goal-oriented. But for God’s sake, don’t rush the relationship! Take your time, give both yourselves time to want to be in the midst of a relationship. You can’t go from dinner on Friday night, to an early morning text about brunch on Saturday, to “how do you feel about going to 8 o’clock service with me on Sunday?” Take your time, don't rush things, you will scare the other person away if you start smothering them out the gate. Avoiding the above tips in the early stage of your relationship will go a long way in helping you to creating an atmosphere where love abound. Feel free to contact me through my email ikawo4u@gmail.com or by simply filling the contact me form on the left side of this page.

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You’re In Love With Someone Off-Limits; So Now What?

Falling in love with someone off-limits is undoubtedly complicated and rarely ideal. We’ve got 4 tips for navigating your own off-limits romance.
1) Determine if the person really is off-limits. People who are otherwise open-minded can be very judgmental about love, sometimes ruling out anyone who isn’t their “type.” Here’s the truth: There’s a chance that the person who could love you best isn’t as tall, muscular, or accomplished as you think you’d like. Superficial traits aren’t inherent dealbreakers. So who’s really, truly off-limits? Someone in a serious committed relationship. There are few other people to add to the list: people who show no interest in you despite your obvious interest in them, who are bitter and jaded from previous relationships, or who exhibit a lot of ‘red flags’.
2) Don’t rush in. Of course, what starts off-limits doesn’t always stay off-limits. Sometimes people fall in love in messy circumstances that could hurt other people. It’s not ideal, but it’s a personal decision for the individuals involved to make. No one said love was easy. That said, feeling something doesn’t mean that you have to act on it. It’s normal to sometimes find yourself attracted to someone you can’t have. Ask yourself- and honestly answer ; these questions before making any decisions about pursuing someone who’s off-limits.
*.What could happen, both good and bad?
*.How would my decision affect other people? Can I live with myself knowing that my actions could potentially hurt others?
*.What advice would I give to a loved one who was in this situation? *.If everyone were to do what I’m thinking of doing, what would happen?
3) Love the player, not the game. Before you proceed any further with an off-limits relationship, it’s important to make sure that you’re interested in the person, not just the thrill of forbidden romance. Excitement and danger are fun temporarily. But if you really want a future with someone, you can’t keep your relationship on the down-low or your attraction one-dimensional. When you’re attracted to a man for the right reasons, you’re attracted on multiple (physical, emotional, spiritual, etc.) levels, psychologists explain. You tend to feel like the best version of yourself. You feel more good than bad, whether you’re with or without him. So if you feel great when you’re with your secret love, but guilt-ridden or resentful when you’re apart, something needs to change.
4) Learn from your decision. Maybe your off-limits romance will end in happiness. Maybe it won’t. Perhaps you’ll decide it’s not worth the risk. Whatever the case, it’s important to remember that every relationship, mistakes and all, teaches us something. When it comes to love, we tend to learn the hard way. At the very least, an off-limits relationship helps us improve and make the inner changes necessary to attract a higher-quality person who’s available. And the best possible result? Two people who overcome the odds to get together … and stay that way.

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Habits That May Increase Your Risk of Diabetes

Ask yourself: Do any of these six habits sound familiar? If so, you may be contributing to your risk of getting this deadly disease. Not all diseases can be prevented with proper diet and exercise, but with diabetes, those two go a long way. 1. Your Idea of Exercise is Reaching for the Remote If channel-flipping is your idea of working out, then you are at a much greater risk of getting diagnosed. People with sedentary lifestyles are far more likely to obtain diabetes. In fact several studies suggest a strong correlation between watching TV, weight gain, and the development of diabetes — independent of diet and exercise. 2. Soda and Sugary Drinks Are Your Go-To Refreshment It has long been known that copious sugar intake, along with family history, is one of the largest contributors to developing diabetes. Soda and other sugary drinks are the easiest and fastest way to consume sugar. Even worse is the perception that drinking calories and sugar are somehow not as bad for you as eating sweets. One of the easiest ways to reduce your sugar intake is to replace your current beverage of choice with water or another low-sugar beverage. 3. It’s Been a While Since You’ve Seen Your Feet Now is the time for a staggering statistic: Studies show that those diagnosed with type 2 diabetes are also diagnosed with overweight or obesity in 80 to 90 percent of the cases. You don’t need to have your Ph.D. to see the incredible correlation between diabetes and being overweight or obese. If you are, it would strongly benefit you to start a diet and exercise regimen before it’s too late. 4. You Take the Elevator — to the Second Floor This one picks up where bad habit #3 leaves off. One of the greatest risk factors of getting diabetes is living a sedentary lifestyle. If you are one of those who avoids taking the steps at all costs – it will most likely cost you more in the long run. In addition to practicing good eating habits, it is extremely important to work exercise into your daily routine. (Even if you are limited by age or disability there is most likely something you can do to remain physically active.) Avoiding a sedentary lifestyle is not only good for your social life, but for your health!In my opinion, if a patient of mine were to walk 20 minutes a day for each pill he takes for diabetes, he’d see in a few months that he no longer needs to be taking as many pills. With all the savings on prescriptions, that money could easily be reallocated to your new wardrobe — like, say, some great walking shoes! 5. When You Enter a Room, Your Gut Goes First Does size matter? Ahh, the age old question…No, not that question! In the case of diabetes size definitely matters. Your mid-section is your ‘gauge’ to alert you that you may be heading towards a diagnosis of diabetes. Speak to your doctor if you are overweight and have any additional risk factors outlined in this article. GALTIME

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How To Get A Boyfriend: 3 Powerful Steps

Pining after someone special? Read this now & get your chemistry flowing. 1. Guys Are Cats The first thing to say on the subject of learning how to get a guy want you is that you need to realize that men are just like cats. Sounds a little weird? Hear me out! Ever seen a cat chase after a toy that is just sitting there? I certainly haven’t. However, when it’s dangled in front of them but still remains slightly out of reach, they literally go crazy for it. They jump around, chase, sprint and pretty much will do whatever it needs to do to catch this “just out of reach” toy. Bizarrely, guys are exactly the same. If you are easy to win over or not a challenge and just wait there for a guy to “catch” you, then you can be pretty sure that he’s not going to be that interested in you. But if you are fun, exciting, playful, flirty, just out of reach, then he is going to be a lot more likely to desire and chase after you. 2. Let’s Be Honest For A Second… The second thing that I have to say on the topic of learning how to get a guy to like you is maybe not something you want to hear… but it’s vital. There are certain attraction triggers that will make guys like you and see you in a totally different light (read: an attractive light). Here are the 3 most important: Are You Healthy? Going to the gym in of itself doesn’t make you healthy. Eating right isn’t the only important factor to being healthy. Being thin is a goal of many women, but again this may not necessarily make you healthier. But combining these 3 things, going to the gym, maintaining a healthy weight and eating right is going to massively contribute to being much healthier. You see, guys aren’t really looking for a skinny woman, gym bunny or a nutritious eater. They are naturally attracted to someone who is healthy. Being lean is the result of being healthy. So ask yourself, “Am I doing everything possible to be healthy?” Do You Dress To Impress? The next thing I want to talk about is how you dress. I am absolutely not talking about being fashionable. Being fashionable is certainly fun, but it you are keen to make a guy want you and chase you, then you should think more about dressing attractively to accentuate your good points. I can honestly tell you this as guy: men just don’t care about fashion nearly as much as women do. As a result, we often don’t even notice the latest trends or what’s hot. So to reiterate, rather than dressing fashionably, dress attractively. The difference is often subtle, but it’s crucial to making a guy want to be with you. Are you a fun person to be around, a depressing person to be around, or a boring person to be around? The majority of guys don’t want to hang around a girl that’s boring or depressing, no matter how attractive she is. They’d prefer to run a mile, to be perfectly honest. So when I say that you should be a fun person and a positive person to be around, I don’t mean that you should be some sort of psycho-happy-all-the-time person. I’m saying that you should do your best to see the good in the world and be at least a little bit more positive. 3. Are You Available All The Time Or Do You Have Your Own Life? The final thing I have to say on getting a guy to like you is that you absolutely need to have your own life when it comes to dating, and even just attracting a guy. Again, this comes down to the fact that guys don’t want what they can easily have (remember the cat analogy above?). So rather than always being available to hang out with a guy, make sure that you have your own life, interests and fun things to do (and invite him to). This will make you seem way, way more valuable in his eyes. YOURTANGO

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Guys Things You Can Do To Keep Her Happy

1 When you break her heart, the pain never really goes away. So never try it at all. 2 When she misses you, she's hurting inside. 3 When she says it's over, she still wants you to be hers. Go to her and tell her how much you love her. 4 When she walks away from you mad, follow her. She only want to see your reactions 5 When she stares at your mouth, kiss her. 6 When she pushes or hits you, grab her tight & don't let her go. 7 When she starts cursing at you, kiss her and tell her you love her. 8 When she ignores you, give her your attention. 9 When she pulls away, pull her back. 10 When you see her at her worst, tell her she's beautiful, cute and intelligent 11 When you see her crying, just hold her and don't say a word. 12 When you see her walking, sneak up and hold her waist from behind. 13 When she's scared, protect her. 14 When she lays her head on your shoulder, tilt her head up and kiss her. 15 When she steals your favourite jacket, let her keep it and sleep with it for as long as she likes. 16 When she teases you, tease her back and make her laugh. 17 When she doesn't answer for a long time, reassure her that everything is okay. 18 When she looks at you with doubt, back yourself up with the truth. Give her a reason to trust you 19 When she says that she likes you, she really does more than you could understand. 20 When she grabs your hands, hold hers and play with her fingers. 21 When she bumps into you, bump into her back and make her laugh. 22 When she tells you a secret, keep it safe and untold. 23 When she looks at you in your eyes, don’t look away until she does. 24 Stay on the phone with her even if she’s not saying anything. 25 Don't let her have the last word. 26 Don't call her hot, but gorgeous or beautiful is so much better. 27 Say you love her more than she could ever love you. 28 Argue that she is the best girl ever. 29 When she's mad, hug her tight and don't let go. 30 When she says she's OK, don’t believe it, talk to her about it, because 10 yrs later she'll still remember it. 31 Call her at 12:00am on special occasions to tell her you love her. 32 Call her before you sleep and after you wake up. 33 Treat her like she's all that matters to you. 34 Don't ignore her when she's out with you and your friends. 35 Stay up all night with her when she's sick. 36 Watch her favorite movie with her or her favorite show even if you think its stupid. 37 Let her into your world. 38 Let her wear your clothes. 39 When she's bored and sad, hang out with her 40 Let her know she's important. 41 Kiss her in the pouring rain. 42 When she runs up at you crying, the first thing you say is; "Who's ass am I kicking today baby?" 43 Tell her she's the best thing that ever happened to you. Doing all this she will remain with you forever.

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About

I created this blog to help people provide solution to the most important part of our lives which are:
1. Relationship: This is simply the interaction between people. It is a wide area ranging from simple with people around us to people who are so dear to our hearts and we can not do/live without to.
2. Health: Health is wealth is a popular slogan and this has been indisputable. Healthy living is the number thing and something no one will ever want to be deprive of. Thus, i will be providing nutritional tips a key to healthy living, diseases and symptoms.
                                 
                                                         About Me

My name is IKAWO O. EMMANUEL, my childhood nickname is Hower and Kimoe with dual meaning is my definition of life and also representing the first letter of the name of every member of my nuclear family. I love to health people most especially couples understand the need to stay in love in order to maintain a happy home.
As a Biochemist, i believe the joy of living life is living healthy and this is why i believe in helping people provide articles that will help promote and understand the importance of optimum health.
If you need more information, please do not hesitate to contact me with the contact me form below the page or click on the contact link on top to view my contact informations.
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Tips To Avoid Heart Break

Heart breaks these days have become a regular song in our society, most especially ladies. Some times ago i watched a video on youtube about heart breaks, about 50 ladies and girls were interviewed and 49 of these ladies already have more than one heart breaks. I decided to check and search for the real cause of these. Fortunately i found the following:
(1) Lust and Love: Most ladies can not differentiate between love and just. Seeing a guy entising you with romantic words can make a lady fall anytime. Remedy: When a guy comes to you and after a few talks and he starts talking about s*x and in every opportunity he's only after romance and s*x just know that this is not going to get anywhere and once he gets what he wants he's off.
(2) Gift: Gift is important and one of the best way of appreciating each other in a relationship. I don't go against it. It's good and fun. But when your guys stop giving for some reasons and you start nagging, he would leave and feel you appreciate the gift more than himself.
(3) Money and Flashy things: Naturally when a guy attracts you with money and flashy things like cars. And you respond happilly by objecting to helping him enjoy the money and always ready to sit in the front sit of his car. Believe me he will end up dumping you and you will feel he had break your heart but seriously that's not the case because he only sees you as the "Chop and Clean Mouth" type of girl. Remedy: Extravagant guys who lives or show flashy(coz some are not real anyway) don't like people who's always ready to spend their money, they appreciate people who guide and make them spend less more.
(4) S*x: S*x should be the last thing you will consider in your relationship. I will advocate after marriage because it's the most sacred thing in a relationship. But these days s*x is the cheapest thing you can think of but if at all you must do it with your guy, make it once in a while not as often, because when a guy you think love you have had enough s*x with you, what else is remaining after marriage. Solution tips; Make sure you stave him and that is if at all you want to do it, make it less often, because a guy that truely love you will not demand for s*x and if he ask you for it and you tell him to wait, He would understand.
(5) Nagging: Virtually all guys hate girls that nag. Although i try to find out why most girls/ladies nag, the response was fascinating in summary 80% said that's the best way they can express themselves and they feel satisfied. Well i will say if you must voice your anger as a lady, there is always better way to express yourself. Discuss with your guy in cool and calm way. He will listen no need to shout. If you can consider the above tips you will be enjoying and having a sweet lasting relationship. All the best

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5 Important Reasons You Should Get Married While You’re Young

While delaying marriage has advantages — a lower divorce rate, higher income for women and fewer and less intense arguments between spouses — studies show there also may be benefits to tying the knot before age 30. However, there is such a thing as marrying too young. Research shows that marriages beginning when a woman is 18 are twice as likely to end in divorce as those beginning when she is 22. Below are five reasons to get married in your 20s.
1. It couid make you happier: The highest percentage of people ages 20 to 28 who consider themselves “highly satisfied” with their lives are married, as opposed to single or cohabiting. What’s more, the largest number of women who described their marriage as “very happy” tied the knot when they were 24 to 26. A 2010 study found that “the greatest indicated likelihood of being in an intact marriage of the highest quality is among those who married at ages 22–25.”
2. You’ll make more money(at least if you’re a man): An analysis revealed that among men in their mid-30s, those who married in their 20s had the highest levels of personal income. Economists have found, in general, that married men earn more than single men — even when you control for other factors like age and education.
3. You’ll have more séx: Couples who marry in their 20s tend to have more frequent séx than those who marry later. Researchers say that “a four year increase in age at marriage is associated with a couple having séx about one time less per month.” What’s more, married people as a whole have more séx than their single counterparts.
4. You’ll drink less alcohol: A 2012 study published in the Journal of Health and Social Behavior found that married and engaged young adults reported lower frequency of drunkenness than those who are not in a serious romantic relationship. Laying off alcohol has many health benefits, including weight loss, better sleep, better skin and a reduced risk of some cancers.
5. There’s nothing to be gained from waiting:  if you think you’re ready. We certainly aren’t advocating a rush to the altar, but if you feel like you’re prepared for that next step, go for it. Research says there’s no advantage to delaying marriage just for the sake of delaying it. A 25-year-old person who meets an excellent marriage prospect would be ill-advised to pass up that opportunity only because he/she feels not yet at the ideal age for marriage. Furthermore, delaying marriage beyond the mid-twenties will lead to the loss during a portion of young adulthood of any emotional and health benefits that a good marriage would bring.

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3 Statements Every Spouse Needs to Hear

Here are 3 statements every spouse needs to hear:
1. Honey, I love you: Far too often, as we get caught up in the hustle and bustle of everyday life, “I love you” becomes a quick salutation at the end of phone conversations and text messages between spouses. How much more would it mean if you stopped your spouse from whatever they were doing, stared into their eyes and said, “I love you.” It’s easy to take your husband or wife’s love for granted. Make the extra effort to express your feelings for them and let them know they are loved and appreciated by you.
2. Baby, I need you: Merriam-Webster defines the word need as “a situation in which someone or something must do or have something.” Think about that for a second. When you say to your spouse that you need them, you are declaring that you must have them! Tell your partner today that you need and must have him or her…just like you need air to breathe.
3. Sugar, I want you: Never let your spouse wonder if you still desire them. Make it known that you want every part of who they are – don’t expect them to guess. Looks can change over the years, but what’s most important is that your spouse knows that, no matter what, you want them in every way; mentally, emotionally, and physically. And there you have it. Whether you’ve been together two years or twenty, there’s nothing more powerful than telling your husband or wife how much you love, need and want them. Add those words to the lexicon of your marriage without delay. Be sure to back them up with actions, too!

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Things All Couples Should Accept About Marriage

Marriage is an institution, unlike dating everything is different and it's a new learning environment. To those newly engaged expect new challenges and those recreating their marriage try as much as possible to adapt to your new life, if you would like to build on a healthy foundation, these are what to expect.
1. You get out of it what you put in: It might occasionally feel like work, but if you don’t feed your marriage, it will starve.
2. Some days your spouse just won’t be feeling you and it is ok; Because on certain days, you won’t be feeling them either. It’s important for each person in the relationship to have their own hobbies and a life outside of their spouse. A smothering spouse can ruin a marriage.
3. Something is going to set you off, piss you off and almost take you to your limit: But you are the only one that has the power to control what and how you react to what happens.
4. You are going to get tired: Physically and emotionally. Make sure you are getting the necessary rest and relaxation. Don’t try being a superhero; know your limits and do what you can when you can. Be honest about when you need a break.
5. Occasionally your effort might not be matched by your spouse at any given time and it is also ok and shouldn’t stop you from giving your all.
6. Your spouse just might not get it: No matter how many times you’ve explained it there will be things you won’t agree on. He’ll have his view and she’ll be sold on her opinion. Know how to agree to disagree and move on.
7. You have a say so in the type of marriage you will have: From the very beginning your actions or lack thereof will determine if there is effective communication, teamwork, honesty and true commitment.
8. There are different paths that lead to the same result: Your spouse is not you, so he/she won’t always do things as you would. Accept that and keep it moving forward.
9. It won’t work without both partners being present: Showing up, trying harder, giving more of self and time is key.
10. Others are using your marriage as inspiration: People today need hope they want and need to see healthy marriages, especially in our communities. Knowing what it takes going in helps to keep us prepared for the long haul. Being realistic and always willing to give your all is an excellent way to build your marriage.

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The Number One Reason That Couples Get Divorced

If more couples knew what the primary cause for divorce was (from my observation), then I think they could avoid it. I know that you may be thinking that the primary cause for divorce is infidelity, communication, or financial issues. But it isn’t. The no.1 reason that I see marriages failing is because one or both members of the marriage refuses to do what’s required to keep the relationship together. You may think that I’m oversimplifying the issue but think about it. Infidelity or money isn’t the issue because we’ve seen couples overcome both with flying colors. Breakdowns in communication can happen with any couple. The issue is: what will you do if it happens to you. There are solutions and help for all of the issues that modern day couples face, but divorce happens when one or both of them won’t seek that help. Or, perhaps they go to counseling but fail to implement the steps that are recommended. Maybe they know that they’re wrong but take the approach that they shouldn’t be required to change. The couples that we’ve seen who have overcome all odds, all had the same thing working for them; they were both committed to making the relationship work. The obstacles that they faced were not easy and still may be challenging to this day, but they’ve decided that their relationship and the legacy of their families is worth it. If you’re faced with these same issues will you decide that your marriage is worth it? Will you be willing to do what’s required to overcome the obstacles? Will you go above and beyond, even when you feel that you’re not at fault? These are questions that you should answer since you now know the no. 1 reason for divorce. BMWK

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Romantic Gestures That Will Make Your Woman Swoon

Small gestures can be even more meaningful in a relationship than generous ones, or loud statements. Below you will find just a few suggestions on how to show her your affection so that her heart melts. Please, feel free to add your own advice, and discuss your experience in the comments section below!
1. Make her something. Write her a poem or a song, draw her a picture or a card, frame a photo that you took! of the two of you together, cook her a special dinner with all of her favorite dishes; whatever it is, if you use your hands, she will melt.
2. Demonstrate you think about her when she’s not around: This can be demonstrated in the most minor of ways. Send her links to stories you know will interest her (especially when they’re about topics that don’t interest you). Change your wallpaper on your mobile phone to a picture of her. Text her, ask her opinion on which shirt to wear on your future job interview.
3. Be supportive: A romantic/s*xual connection is awesome and important, but being sincerely interested in who your significant other is as an autonomous human being is essential to make a relationship last. It’s great when you constantly remid her how hot she is, but don’t forget to praise her for being smart and fascinating. Show interest in what she does, what her opinions are, and where her passions lie, be supportive of those things.
4. Clean up. Doing the dishes...so simple, so meaningful, so sexy.
5. Make important introductions: Our parents bring out the best and worst in us wanting her to experience that dynamic in the flesh shows trust and vulnerability and that is romantic. If you’re ready to bring both of your families together, that means a lot for her, too.
6. Take care of her: See her home after a day at work: Clean her car for her. Prepare her a dinner. Lots and lots of variations!
7. Surprise your lady! Seriously, this isn’t about spending loads of money or putting hours into planning something flashy. It’s about being struck with the sudden desire to make her feel special in a way that you know would resonate with her. That is priceless. Present her with a different flower each time, or take her out in the middle of the night to watch the skyline for falling stars and make wishes. Doing these things above will make her swoon and go a long way in helping you build a stronger relationship. Goodluck

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Reasons Women Don’t Date ‘Nice Guys’

If you are a guy reading this, you have probably noticed that, instead of opting for a nice and calm partner who would treat her right (you), the girl usually chooses a ‘bad boy’. If you are a girl, then you probably are wondering why you are attracted to and end up with a man who treats you badly. We’ve tried to come up with sensible reasons why this happens, but you are very welcome to add some new insights on the matter in the comments!
1. Not real: Nice guysare too nice. No one can always be that nice unless they’re a saint. They are busy being nice instead of being real and women instinctually don’t trust that. Bad boys “keep it real.”Nice guysdon’t want to upset the apple cart.
2. Respect: No one respects a doormat. Nice guys don’t set boundaries or make any real demands. A bad boy doesn’t let a woman walk all over him or control him. Women can’t respect a man they can control. No respect equals no attraction.
3. Predictable: Most people lead boring, predictable lives, so they’re attracted to people who are exciting and a bit unpredictable. Bad boys are always a challenge. Nice guys are never a challenge. Predictable plus no excitement plus no challenge.
4. Mother Nature: Women are designed to nurture. However, instead of doing this with children, they often end up doing it with bad boys. They think their love will save them. Nice guys rarely need to be saved.
5. Fixing: Nice guys don’t usually need to be fixed. Bad boys usually do, so they become a project. Women think if they can “create” the perfect man, he will never leave them. Also, if they’re busy fixing someone else, they don’t have to look at what needs to be fixed in their own lives.
6. Genetic wars: Women are designed to procreate with the strongest possible genes. Bad boys are sending an unconscious message that they have great genes, so they’re not afraid of losing the woman by misbehaving. Nice guys are sending a message that they don’t think their genes are good enough, so they won’t misbehave.
7. Fear of intimacy: If a woman is afraid of intimacy, she subconsciously knows she can avoid it with a bad boy, since she can never get close enough to him to have to go there. A nice guy will eventually want a commitment, and that’s scary.
8. Low self-esteem: We don’t feel comfortable with people who treat us better than we treat ourselves. If you don’t think much of yourself, the bad boy is simply reinforcing your negative belief. A nice guy is treating you in a way you’re not familiar with.
9. s*x: Women feel a nice guywon’t be good in bed. They sometimes like to be manhandled and think a nice guywon’t be able to take control and get the job done. A bad boy comes across as being able to deliver, even though that may not always be the case.
10. Hot: Have you ever seen a bad boy who wasn’t hot? They probably wouldn’t be able to get away with half the stuff they did if they didn’t look so good. Meanwhile, when a woman describes someone as a nice guy, she means, “He’s not hot.”
11. Charm: Nice guys don’t always know what to say and are sometimes at a loss for words. Bad boys can be very charming and know exactly what women want to hear. However, they eventually switch over to being selfish. By the time they reveal their true colors, the woman has fallen for them and has a hard time letting go.
12. Protection: Historically, men have protected women, physically and otherwise. Bad boys give the illusion of being able to protect women, while with nice guys, women aren’t so sure. Life is about balance. Most men fall into either the bad boy or the nice guy category. The ideal man is neither, but walks that fine line between the two. Until men learn how to do this, more often than not, women will choose the bad boy, until they realize that his bad qualities outweigh his good ones. INFORMATIONNG

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Fixing Relationship Problems With Humor 2

Like any tool, humor can be used in negative as well as positive ways. Making snide, hurtful remarks, for example, then criticizing the other person for not being able to take a joke will create even more problems and ultimately damage a relationship. Humor can only help you overcome relationship problems when both partners are in on the joke. It’s important to be sensitive to the other person. If your partner or friend isn’t likely to appreciate the joke, don’t say or do it, even if it’s "all in good fun.”When the joking is one-sided rather than mutual, it undermines trust and goodwill and can damage the relationship. Humor in relationships should be equally fun and enjoyable for both people. If your partner doesn’t think your joking or teasing is funny stop immediately. Before you start playing around, take a moment to consider your motives, as well as your partner’s state of mind and sense of humor. Ask yourself the following questions:
1. Do you feel calm, clear-headed, and connected to the other person?
2. Is your true intent to communicate positive feelings or are you taking a dig, expressing anger, or laughing at the other person’s expense?
3. Are you sure that the joke will be understood and appreciated?
4. Are you aware of the emotional tone of the nonverbal messages you are sending? Are you giving off positive, warm signals or a negative or hostile tone?
5. Are you sensitive to the nonverbal signals the other person is sending? Do they seem open and receptive to your humor, or closed-off and offended?
6. Are you willing and able to back off if the other person responds negatively to the joke?
7. If you say or do something that offends, is it easy for you to immediately apologize?
(a)Don’t use humor to cover up other emotions: Humor helps you stay resilient in the face of life’s challenges. But there are times when humor is not healthy and that's when it is used as a cover for avoiding, rather than coping with, painful emotions. Laughter can be a disguise for feelings of hurt, fear, anger, and disappointment that you don’t want to feel or don’t know how to express. You can be funny about the truth, but covering up the truth isn’t funny. When you use humor and playfulness as a cover for other emotions, you create confusion and mistrust in your relationships. For cues as to whether or not humor is being used to conceal other emotions, ask yourself the following questions:
1. Do nonverbal communication signals such as tone of voice, intensity, timing feel genuinely humorous to you, or do you experience them as forced or "not right” somehow?
2. Is humor the only emotion you routinely express, or is there a mixture of other emotions that at least occasionally includes sadness, fear, and anger?
(b) Develop your playful side: It’s never too late to develop and embrace your playful, humorous side. If you find yourself limiting your playfulness, it's possible that you're self-conscious and concerned about how you'll look and sound to others when you attempt to be funny or witty. Fearing rejection or ridicule when attempting to be funny is an understandable fear, but it's important to point out that as a baby, you were naturally playful; you didn't worry about the reactions of other people. You can reclaim your inborn playfulness by setting aside regular, quality play time. The more you joke, play, and laugh, the easier it becomes. Note the following whenever you are using humor: 1. Monitor your partner’s nonverbal cues. If your partner is not appreciating or enjoying your attempts at humor, you’ll be able to tell from his or her body language. Does her smile seem fake or forced? Is he leaning away from you or leaning towards you, encouraging you to continue?
2. Avoid mean-spirited humor. It may work for some comedians on stage, but used one-on-one at home, it will not only fall flat but may also damage your relationship. Saying something hurtful or insulting, even when framed as a joke, will alienate the other person and weaken the bond between you.
3. Create inside jokes. An inside joke is something that only the two of you understand. It can often be reduced to a word or short phrase that reminds you both of a funny incident or amusing story, and is usually guaranteed to generate a smile or laugh from the other person. When you and your partner are the only ones “in” on the joke, it can create intimacy and draw you together.
4. Don’t be afraid to “play the fool.”Remember, you’re not trying to impress or entertain your partner, but simply to lighten up and make the two of you more relaxed. Goof around, wear wacky clothing, be silly like a kid. It can lower your partner’s defenses, relieve tension, and help you to smooth over differences... Practices these tips today and see your relationship become more intimate and more flowing of love.. Use humor to reconnect with your partner crack jokes and act foolish, it's not to be ashamed of, it's for the fun of it.. To be continued........

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Fixing Relationship Problems with Humor

We have all heard that laughter is the best medicine, and it's true. Laughter relieves tension and stress, elevates mood, enhances creativity, and boosts energy. Laughter also plays an essential role in building strong, healthy relationships by bringing people closer together, creating intimacy, and resolving conflict and disagreements. Whether you’re dating or in a long-term relationship, you can learn to use humor and play to strengthen the bond between you and help you fix relationship problems.The power of humor and laughter Humor plays an important role in relationships from initial attraction to long-term commitment. In new relationships, humor can be an effective tool not just for attracting the other person but also for overcoming any awkwardness or embarrassment that arises during dating and the process of getting to know one another. In longer-term relationships, humor can keep things exciting, fresh, and vibrant. It can also help you overcome conflicts, disagreements, and the tiny aggravations than can build up over time and wreck even the strongest of relationships. Sharing the pleasure of humor creates a sense of intimacy and connection between two people. When you laugh with one another, you create a positive bond between you. This bond acts as a strong buffer against stress, disagreements, disappointments, and bad patches in a relationship. Laughter really is contagious, just hearing someone laugh primes you to smile and join in on the fun. But don’t worry if you’re not naturally a lighthearted, humorous person, you can learn to access your playful side and develop your sense of fun. Humor isn’t a miracle cure for relationship problems but it can be an important tool to help you overcome the rough spots that afflict every relationship from time to time. Whether your relationship problems stem from issues connected to money, sex, commitment, health, employment, parenting styles, or growing apart, you can use humor to help resolve problems and strengthen relationships. Humor can help you and your loved one:
1. Form a stronger bond to each other: Your health and happiness depend, to a large degree, on the quality of your relationships and laughter binds people together.
2. Smooth over differences: Using gentle humor often helps you address even the most sensitive relationship issues, such as sex or in-laws.
3. Diffuse tension: A well-timed joke can ease a tense situation and help you resolve disagreements. 4.Overcome problems and setbacks: A sense of humor is the key to resilience. It helps you take hardships in stride, weather disappointment, and bounce back from adversity and loss.
5. Put things into perspective: Most situations are not as bleak as they appear to be when looked at from a playful and humorous point of view. Humor can help you reframe problems that might otherwise seem overwhelming and damage a relationship.
6. Be more creative: Humor and playfulness can loosen you up, energize your thinking, and inspire creative problem solving for any relationship issue. Fixing relationship problems tip
1. Use humor to defuse conflict: Conflict is an inevitable part of all relationships. It may take the form of major discord between the two of you or simply petty aggravations that have built up over time. Either way, how you manage conflict can often determine how successful your relationship will be. When conflict and disagreement throw a wrench in your relationship, humor and playfulness can help lighten things up and restore a sense of connection. Used skillfully and respectfully, a little lighthearted humor can quickly turn conflict and tension into an opportunity for shared fun and intimacy. It allows you to get your point across without getting the other person’s defenses up or hurting his or her feelings.
2. Interrupt the power struggle, instantly easing tension and allowing you to reconnect and regain perspective. 3. Be more spontaneous: Shared laughter and play helps you break free from rigid ways of thinking and behaving, allowing you to see the problem in a new way and find a creative solution.
4. Be less defensive: In playful settings, we hear things differently and can tolerate learning things about ourselves that we otherwise might find unpleasant or even painful.
5. Let go of inhibitions: Laughter opens us up, freeing us to express what we truly feel and allowing our deep, genuine emotions to rise to the surface.

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Being sociable can boost your brain

If you have lots of friends, this could go to your head. A study has shown that bits of the brain are bigger and better connected in people who have lots of friends. And the more sociable they are, the bigger the brain boost. Parts of the brain are bigger and better connected in people who have lots of friends, a study has found The finding comes from Oxford University scientists who asked 18 men and women how many friends they had met, spoken to on the phone or emailed in the past month. The average number of friends contacted was around 20 but some were in touch with more than 40 people. Others only made contact with ten pals. Scans showed that around half a dozen brain regions were bigger in those who were more sociable - and the more friends someone had, the larger the areas were. One of the sociability regions was the anterior cingulate cortex, an area we use to keep track of what other people are doing. However, it is thought that other brain regions, which aren't used when socialising, shrink in comparison The scans showed that connections between this area and another that we use to work out how others are thinking and feeling were particularly strong in sociable types. The Society for Neuroscience’s annual conference also heard that there were strong connections between the various areas involved in sociability. Researcher MaryAnn Noonan said: ‘In more sociable humans, perhaps these communication pathways are more like motorways than windy country roads, making information processing more efficient and better.’ With earlier work in monkeys producing similar results, the researchers think it is not the case that sociable people are simply born with brains that are better wired for friendship. Instead, they believe that people with lots of friends use certain brain regions more often, leading to them growing to keep up with the social demands. Dr Noonan said: ‘If I hedged my bets, I’d say the brain is changing in response to social network size. 'But that is not to say that there isn’t a genetic influence, so that if you come from a sociable family, your brain is predisposed to that.’ It is hoped that learning more about how the brain reacts in social situations could lead to new treatments for autism, schizophrenia and other conditions in which people struggle to interact with others. However, sociable types should note that the finding doesn’t mean that they have bigger brains overall. It is thought that other brain regions, which aren’t used when they are out socialising, shrink in compensation. So friends socialise today. Make more friend and make your brain bigger and better.

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Healthy Eating Tips

Healthy eating does not mean depriving yourself of the foods you love or staying unrealistically thin, but rather about developing a well-balanced, satisfying relationship with food. Your food choices can reduce your risk of illnesses such as heart disease, cancer, and diabetes, as well increase your energy, stabilize your weight, and boost your mood. By exploring the broad range of articles below, you’ll find help with everything from losing weight, overcoming food cravings, and eating out, to tips on buying and preparing food, managing your food budget, and devising nutrition plans to cope with or reduce the risk of specific diseases. Whatever your age, income, or living situation whether you’re preparing meals for yourself or for the whole family, you’ll find everything needed to create an enjoyable, healthy diet that works for you. You can Start slow and make changes to your eating habits over time.Trying to make your diet healthy overnight isn’t realistic or smart. Changing everything at once usually leads to cheating or giving up on your new eating plan. Make small steps, like adding a salad (full of different color vegetables) to your diet once a day or switching from butter to olive oil when cooking. As your small changes become habit, you can continue to add more healthy choices to your diet. Every change you make to improve your diet matters. You don’t have to be perfect and you don’t have to completely eliminate foods you enjoy to have a healthy diet. The long term goal is to feel good, have more energy, and reduce the risk of cancer and other diseases. Don’t let your missteps derail you, every healthy food choice you make counts. Healthy eating is about more than the food on your plate, it is also about how you think about food. Healthy eating habits can be learned and it is important to slow down and think about food as nourishment rather than just something to gulp down in between meetings or on the way to where you are going. You can improve your eating habit by 1. Eat with others whenever possible: Eating with other people has numerous social and emotional benefits particularly for children and allows you to model healthy eating habits. Eating in front of the TV or computer often leads to mindless overeating. 2. Take time to chew your food and enjoy meal times: Chew your food slowly, savoring every bite. We tend to rush though our meals, forgetting to actually taste the flavors and feel the textures of our food. Reconnect with the joy of eating. 3. Listen to your body: Ask yourself if you are really hungry, or have a glass of water to see if you are thirsty instead of hungry. During a meal, stop eating before you feel full. It actually takes a few minutes for your brain to tell your body that it has had enough food, so eat slowly. 4. Eat breakfast, and eat smaller meals throughout the day: A healthy breakfast can jumpstart your metabolism, and eating small, healthy meals throughout the day (rather than the standard three large meals) keeps your energy up and your metabolism going. 5. Avoid eating at night: Try to eat dinner earlier in the day and then fast for 14-16 hours until breakfast the next morning. Early studies suggest that this simple dietary adjustment eating only when you’re most active and giving your digestive system a long break each day may help to regulate weight. After-dinner snacks tend to be high in fat and calories so are best avoided, anyway. Finally Moderation is key, People often think of healthy eating as an all or nothing proposition, but a key foundation for any healthy diet is moderation. But what is moderation? How much is a moderate amount? That really depends on you and your overall eating habits. The goal of healthy eating is to develop a diet that you can maintain for life, not just a few weeks or months, or until you've hit your ideal weight. So try to think of moderation in terms of balance. Despite what certain fad diets would have you believe, we all need a balance of carbohydrates, protein, fat, fiber, vitamins, and minerals to sustain a healthy body. For most of us, moderation or balance means eating less than we do now. More specifically, it means eating far less of the unhealthy stuff (refined sugar, saturated fat, for example) and more of the healthy (such as fresh fruit and vegetables). But it doesn't mean eliminating the foods you love. Eating bacon for breakfast once a week, for example, could be considered moderation if you follow it with a healthy lunch and dinner but not if you follow it with a box of donuts and a sausage pizza. If you eat 100 calories of chocolate one afternoon, balance it out by deducting 100 calories from your evening meal. If you're still hungry, fill up with an extra serving of fresh vegetables. Start eating healthy today and remain healthy and happy.

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Mistakes MEN Make in Bed

You’re doing it wrong..hmmmm the sex thing. Yeah. At least that’s what some women are dying to tell their partners. Even the most experienced of men may make a mistake or two in the bedroom from time to time and some end up fumbling more times than their favorite football team. So what are the top four mistakes men make in bed? 1. Not taking cues (whether verbal or physical) from their women. Most women complain that men don’t listen and it translates into the bedroom as well. Perhaps it stems from the male ego, which tells them, ‘I know it already’ or ‘I know it better than she does.’ 2. Not warming up the engine properly before putting the foot on the accelerator. In other words – foreplay, foreplay, foreplay! “Insufficient foreplay can undermine the entire act of s*x. We women need it more than you guys do! 3. Lack of grooming! Men can be lazy or forget that although they may actually like smells, most women don’t want their men to smell anything but clean and fresh. Shaving and waxing help, too. 4. Staying mute. Use your voice. We women can get very turned on by a sexy voice in bed–especially if it can tell us what it’s going to do. So what do you do if your man’s got it all wrong? Well, remember laying it on the line can be deflating–in more ways than one. You can NEVER tell a man that he’s doing it wrong. You need to tell him how you like it and how good it feels when is in there. Give him positive feedback and he’ll learn quickly what you like and don’t like.” Remember, we’re all at our most vulnerable when we’re unclad. Men have a LOT of ego invested in their ability to be a good lover. They need to hear from us that they are good enough – and yes, big enough, too!” GALTIME

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Things Every Woman Should Have Been Told About s*x, But Probably Wasn’t

Dear ladies, here are things you probably do not know about s*x. 1. There is no dignified way of “cleaning up” and you WILL need to clean up afterwards. 2. A male partner won’t always have a higher s*x drive than you. 3. It is best to delay s*x till you are married 4. s*x is truly awesome when you really love the person you’re having it with. 5. Women are allowed to enjoy s*x as much as men. 6. s*x doesn’t look like it does in the movies or in P0*n. 7. You shouldn’t have s*x to get love. 8. Learn what turns you on and don’t be afraid to ask for it, because your partner isn’t a mind-reader. 9. It’s fine to say “no” it doesn’t make you less s*xual. 10. The best s*x is about mutual giving. 11. Plenty of women can’t climax from intercourse alone. An estimated 50 to 75 percent of women require clitoral stimulation. 12. It’s easy to get caught up in the moment, so know how you plan to protect yourself from pregnancy and STDs beforehand. 13. Great s*x does not equal great love. 14. Anxieties and fears about s*x are totally normal and it’s (more than) fine to talk about them. 15. Just like with anything else, to get good you need practice. s*x is not something you’re born knowing how to do well. 16. It can be really, really awkward. 17. Your “s*xual peak” won’t necessarily be in your twenties. huffingtonpost

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Signs Your Boyfriend Is Losing Interest

If you feel that your boyfriend is not that much indulged in your relationships any more, here are the signs which can help you confirm your fears. 1. He doesn’t pamper you with gifts anymore: In the early phase boys pamper their beloved with gifts and various tokens of love, without any reason. If your boyfriend has stopped giving you gifts and is not pampering you anymore with little knick knacks, it could be a bad sign that he is taking you for granted. 2. He forgets your birthday: It is a well-known fact that men are not good at remembering dates. But your birthday is one day of the year that you should expect your boyfriend to remember. If he has forgotten this date more than once, it is an obvious sign that his mind is occupied with something more important. No matter how much he apologizes, the fact that he has forgotten your birthday more than once is enough to tell you that he is drifting away. 3. His spends nights out more often than he dates with you: Does your boyfriend hang out with his friends way more than he does with you? Has he ever canceled a date with you just because he wanted to spend time with his friends? If he has, you should understand that he is losing interest in the relationship. 4. He looses his temper for no reason: Of course, every couple has fights and arguments occasionally. But if your boyfriend is losing his temper on silly matters on a daily basis for no reason, it could be an alarming situation. Maybe he is deliberately creating rifts between you both. Or he may also be losing his temper out of frustration of being stuck in a relationship in which he is not interested anymore. 5. He starts using ‘I’ instead of ‘we’: Couples who are in love with each other usually plan their future together. They tend to use ‘we’ instead of ‘I’ because they think about their life as a couple, not as individuals. If he started talking in first person of his feelings towards you, it could mean that he is already thinking only about himself, because he has lost interest in the relationship. 6. He seems generally uninterested and aloof: Little things and minute behavioral traits are enough to let you know whether he has any interest in your relationship or not. Compare your boyfriend’s behaviour to that one a few months back. If you find that he seems a lot more disinterested and aloof than before, he might have fallen out of love with you.

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