Being A Value Added Woman

No sensible man can resist a woman who is beautiful and industrious.

What made a man worked for 7 years for the woman he loved and yet felt like he just worked for 7 days? Value!

My man doesn't respect me, is because you are not a Value- Added-Woman (VAW)

Do you realized that Jacob did not pay Leah's bride price?

They gave him Leah as bonus. Because she had no value. This was why Jacob had no respect for her and her children, hence he set them as first entourage when he was going to meet his angry brother. If you forced yourself on a man, he may never respect you. If he got you cheaply, he will never respect you.

If you are not adding value to his life, he will never respect you.

Even after marriage, Leah was begging and buying the attention of her own husband. Rachael was practically in control of Jacob.

Rachael was a shepherd in the midst of her siblings, a profession meant for men. She was in control of her father's business. This was what glued Jacob to her.

Gen 29:9 Jacob was still talking with them when Rachel arrived with her father’s flock, for she was a shepherd.

How can boys be in the house and a girl (last daughter of the house) be the one to tend her father's flock and family business? Industrious nature!

After Jacob slept with Leah, he still went for Rachael. Sex doesn't keep a man, value does.

Leah had 5 children, Rachael had none, yet Jacob still loved Rachael more than Leah. 

Having children is good but adding value is better. 

Don't ever think you can pin a man down with children. If you like give him a nation, if you are not adding value to his life, he will work away someday.

I'm pleading with our parents not to raise their daughters in a way they will become liabilities to their man. Make your daughter a shepherd before her Jacob arrives. Give her a source of livelihood before marriage. If you want her husband to respect you as Inlaw and value her as a quality wife and real life partner, give her quality character with home training, quality and respectful hand work and education, to ensure a hopeful future for her in her future home. Don't train her merely because of the bride price you want to collect on her. Laban wasted the bride price he took for his daughter. But he lived on the flock kept by his daughter even after she was married out.

This is why many men fall for their ugly hardworking housemaids than their beautiful house wives. We indirectly train our housemaids to be industrious while we train our daughters to be lazy and dependants. Future will tell.

Most importantly gender equality will always kill marriage.

Why divorce was minimal in olden days was because the women believe their men are their supererior, one way or the other.

Until you believe that and be submissive then you will never spend 3years in peace in your man's house . 

Be a Value-Added-Woman and your man will respect you.

Thank you for reading.

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